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Should Christians be Homophobic?


From Walt Disney movies to the CNN news room, our culture seems preoccupied with the discussion of homosexuality. The purpose of this study is to help Christians articulate a biblical world view when they are compelled to enter into this debate.

Many homosexuals may get angry with what they read; but, to the person who feels trapped in a homosexual lifestyle, Jesus Christ offers hope and deliverance if they recognize their sins.

Were Homosexuals Born That Way?

Or, Did They Choose That Lifestyle?

Entering into a discussion on homosexuality we will start with this commonly asked question, were homosexuals born homosexual? Or, do they choose to become a homosexual? It is not likely they were born homosexual for two reasons. First, evolution would remove the gene responsible for homosexuality from the genetic pool as it not only hinders reproduction of that character trait in the population, but also because of the health hazards of homosexuality. Second, fifty years ago, without any propaganda in the news or on TV, the natural tendency for the population was to abhor homosexuality, it is not likely that one generation later (if we were not constantly bombarded with pro-homosexual propaganda) we would naturally embrace it.

So do homosexuals choose homosexuality? No, we do not choose what sexually attracts us. For example, when I was six years old, my best friend showed me a copy of his father's Playboy magazine. The pictures were sexually attractive. I didn't choose for them to be, they just were. No pictures from any other magazine, available to us at the time, had the same effect as the images from Playboy magazines. No one can choose their sexual preferences; if they could many in the homosexual lifestyle would leave it. If homosexuals were not born that way or chose that lifestyle; how did they become homosexual? We will look at this question in a minute.

Health Hazards of Homosexuality

Before we go on, Christians must remember that we should hate the sin not the sinner. Paul the apostle said,

1 Corinthians 6:9-11a ~ Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you.

If Paul said such were some of you, than Paul reached out to these people just as he did to everybody else. To the homosexual reading this, if you make it to the end of this study you will see that I am trying to do the same. Christian love is not to affirm a person who is in a destructive lifestyle any more than a father would just smile as his child played too close to a hot stove. So is the homosexual lifestyle destructive? Yes both mentally and physically. To quote a journal from the American Psychological Association,

"Several studies suggest that gay men, lesbians and bisexuals appear to have higher rates of some mental disorders compared with heterosexuals, although not to the level of a serious pathology. Discrimination may help fuel these higher rates." (DeANGELIS, 2002)

This APA article quoting the November American Psychologist (Vol. 56, No. 11) said several studies found:

"Researchers say these studies demonstrate the need for better, more tailored psychological treatment for lesbian, gay and bisexual (LGB) people." (Ibid)

Unfortunately, modern psychology cannot help the homosexual because it doesn't work (that is another study). The APA is afraid of the homosexual community, which is why homosexuality is no longer a mental illness. And, as we saw in the earlier quote, they blame others, "Discrimination may help fuel these higher rates", rather than take responsibility for their own wellbeing. Homosexuality is not the only lifestyle that is discriminated against.

Other studies have found a correlation between homosexuality and depression. Nancy Schimelpfening, quoting a study that was published in the August 18 issue of BMC Psychiatry,

"According to a new study, which analyzed 25 earlier studies regarding sexual orientation and mental health, homosexuals and bisexuals are about 50% more likely than their heterosexual counterparts to suffer from depression and abuse drugs.

"The researchers also found that the risk of suicide jumped over 200% for those who had engaged in a homosexual lifestyle." (Schimelpfening, 2008)

I could give many similar examples, but let's not go down that rabbit trail. I am only trying to show that the associated discrimination is not a valid argument for depression caused lifestyle choices. Not only is the homosexual lifestyle psychologically unhealthy, it is physically unhealthy. Let's look at HIV infections for an example. This chart comes from the Center for Disease Control ( website. In the chart MSM refers to men who have sex with other men and IDUs are Injecting Drug User. In terms of percent, white heterosexual men who contracted HIV were so few they were not reflected in the chart.

Graph of STD's in different classes of people

Quoting the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services,

"Although MSM [men having sex with men] represent about 4% of the male population in the United States, in 2010, MSM accounted for 78% of new HIV infections among males and 63% of all new infections. MSM accounted for 52% of all people living with HIV infection in 2009, the most recent year these data are available.

"In 2010, white MSM continued to account for the largest number of new HIV infections (11,200), by transmission category, followed closely by black MSM (10,600)." (U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, 2012)

In a October 1, 2014 article from CBS titled "CDC: Gay Men Represent 2 Percent Of US Population, 52 Percent Of People With HIV " it also reported,

"Gay, bisexual and other men who have sex with men (MSM) make up 2 percent of the U.S. population but are the group most definitively affected by HIV, with 63 percent of those newly infected by HIV representing this group." (CBS Atlanta, 2014)

The article went on to say that a CDC report released in 2013 found that 62 percent of American men who self-reported being HIV-positive said they had practiced sodomy with a male partner in the last 12 months.

So while white MSMs represent about 2 to 4% of the male population, white males are 50% of the population. Thus white males who have sex with other men are 25 to 50 times more likely to contract HIV than their heterosexual counterparts. You can see a similar correlation between homosexuality and the risk of contracting other STD's if you take the time to look.

Why does our culture, personified by Michele Obama's healthy lunch program and Mayer Bloomberg's ban on Big Gulp Sodas, worry about the health hazards of fast food and at the same time, ostracize those who will not embrace the homosexual lifestyle?

Homosexuals as Parents

Since the homosexual lifestyle cannot reproduce offspring, it is only natural that they would be interested in adopting children. The more important question becomes, what is best for the children? If you Google this question, you will find many experts who believe children do better raised by homosexuals, and if I was a homosexual, I would, no doubt quote from these studies. As a Christian, I will still quote from these studies, yet I will come to a different conclusion about what is best for the children. The question of homosexuals adopting children is so politically hot that intellectual honesty is hard to find. For instance,

"According to the American Psychological Association [APA], numerous research shows that most kids of same-sex households describe themselves as heterosexual in roughly the same proportion as conventional families. The association also says that homosexuality is not deviant behavior but a normal expression of human sexuality." ('Gayby boom': Children of gay couples speak out)

When the APA says "most kids"instead of "all kids", this, if you look closely, makes the sentence say the opposite of what it appears to say. So what are they saying? Is it the same proportion or not? The whole truth is that the APA used to call homosexuality a mental illness. It wasn't the science; rather, it was pressure from the homosexual lobby that caused them to reverse their position. Now the APA defines being too religious as deviant behavior.

In another example when a hardcore liberal hears,

"Something inside of me wants to be able to help those kids, [raised by homosexual couples] because I know they are going to have problems." (Adult Children Speak Out About Same-Sex Parents)

He may think this is a hate filled homophobe with discriminatory goals. Yet in truth, these words come from an adult child (who loves her mother) of a lesbian couple. The Pharisees in Jesus' day rather than listen to him, so that they could be saved, tried to entrap and condemn him.

In the same way critics from the homosexual community will disparage studies that do not support their lifestyle. They automatically believe there must be a right-wing agenda, thus there is no point in actually reading its words. An example is Regnerus' study, which I will quote from in a moment; Regnerus did not hide the source of his funding (conservatives), claiming that he told his supporters he would report whatever data found.

In preparing for this study I surfed the net so that I could get actual numbers, and quote the sources of the facts I present. So it should not be surprising that I found an article on homosexual parenting at CNN. What also isn’t surprising (I knew this even before I started reading), is that they would only find children who were "well adjusted" and enjoyed being raised by homosexuals. This is their typical unbalanced reporting. Many children raised in alcoholic families, or who are children of substance abusers are also well-adjusted, unfortunately a disproportional number of them are not.

CNN quotes a well-adjusted Man raised in a lesbian household "I was raised in a loving, caring household that let me be a free thinker." ('Gayby boom': Children of gay couples speak out) If homosexuals are known as free thinkers, somebody will have to explain to me what happened to the ex-CEO of Mozilla. And, of course, I will not get any nasty hate mail from this article.

For anybody who is honestly open-minded, here are some bullet points from Mark Regnerus' study;

"Regnerus screened 15,088 people. From these, researchers found 175 people who had been raised for some of their childhood by a mother who was in a lesbian relationship, and 73 people who had been raised for some of their childhood by a father who was in a gay relationship" (Is Gay Parenting Bad for the Kids?)

"Regnerus found that children in the study rarely spent their entire childhood in the households of their gay parent and partner. Only two of 175 subjects who reported having a mother in a lesbian relationship spent their whole childhood with the couple, and no children studied spent their entire childhood with two gay males. The numbers drop off pretty sharply as time passed, too: For example, 57 percent of children spent more than four months with lesbian parents, but only 23 percent spent more than three years." (ibid)


The study found respondents whose mother had a same-sex relationship fared worse on 24 of the 40 tested outcomes, compared with children in an intact heterosexual couple.

Sixty-nine percent of children of lesbian mothers reported that their family received public assistance, such as welfare at some point, compared with 17 percent from intact biological families. About half of children of an intact biological family said they were employed full-time, compared with 26 percent of those born to a lesbian mother. Fourteen percent of kids of a lesbian mom spent time in foster care at some point, compared with 2 percent for the rest of the children studied. Overall, less than 2 percent of all respondents who said their mother had a same-sex relationship reported living with their mom and her partner for all 18 years of their childhood. (Kids of gay parents fare worse, study finds, but research draws fire from experts)

I did not hear a single concern for the children; something like "Maybe we should study this further". Rather the responses were more like this:

"Several experts and advocacy groups have taken issue with the study's methodology, saying a comparison of children of a lesbian mother -- who herself may have divorced the child's biological father, or may not even identify as a lesbian since the survey only asked if a parent had ever been in a same-sex couple during their childhood --  is an unfair, flawed comparison.


"In a joint statement from the Family Equality Council, the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), Freedom to Marry, and the Gay and Lesbian Alliance against Defamation (GLAAD), [Go ahead, before you read the next sentence, guess what they will say.] Advocates called the study a "flawed, misleading, and scientifically unsound paper that seeks to disparage lesbian and gay parents." (ibid)

Speaking for most people, it is their worldview, not the facts, which will decide for them the question of homosexuals making good parents. Jesus spoke of this many times, I will only quote one.

Luke 17:1-2 ~ Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come! It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.

A Biblical Explanation for Homosexuality

At the beginning of this study I asked the question, what causes homosexuality? I argued that they were not born that way, nor do people choose similar sex attractions. So what causes homosexuality? Paul the apostle taught,

Romans 1:22-27 ~ Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things. Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

In this passage Paul spoke of people who,

Our western culture used to be Christian. In the early 1960s prayer and Bibles were allowed in the public schools. In the 1990s military chaplains were still allowed to pray in Jesus' name. Today our cultural engineers are trying to ban Christianity in every part of public life. You can see many examples at different Christian web sites or you could Google "Christian discrimination".

If what the apostle Paul said was true, as our culture rebels against God, we would expect to see an increase of "vile affections" including, but not limited to, homosexuality. This is because every sin is addictive. If you do not believe this name a single sin that some person is not addicted to. God has also given us natural attractions; a man is naturally attracted to a woman. Then He gave us marriage and the commandment not to commit adultery.  It is normal to be tempted, yet if we obey God, our desires go no further. But what happens if we go past this barrier? There is pleasure for the moment. Yet the eye is never full of seeing and because every sin is addictive we need more and more stimulation to get the same pleasure that first sin. The end is that our culture is becoming addicted to behavior that, years earlier, would have been completely repulsive to us.

Ephesians 5:12 ~ For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.

What the Homosexual lifestyle is not

Before we look at what the homosexual lifestyle is, let's look at what it is not.


Homosexuality is not being a tomboy. A girl who likes to play with her brother's toys rather than dolls does not mean she is sexually attracted to her own sex.


Our culture tends to give colors gender, pink for girls and blue for boys. Even so, a boy whose favorite color is pink, or girl whose favorite is blue, does not mean they have homosexual tendencies.


Showing natural affection is difficult because our culture sexualizes everything. So a man kissing another man is only homosexual behavior in our culture.

1 Thessalonians 5:26 ~ Greet all the brethren with an holy kiss.

Effeminate Mannerisms

Just as women have different manors in different cultures, effeminate mannerisms are learned from culture. While some homosexuals can be recognized by their mannerisms, these mannerisms can also be learned by children who are raised by an effeminate parent or influenced by a teacher with effeminate mannerisms.


Deuteronomy 22:5 ~ The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.

Moses did not define what clothing was masculine and feminine, that is done by the culture. Skirts are famine clothing in our culture; in Scotland the men wear kilts (skirts to uninitiated). What makes clothing male or female is the intention of the person who is wearing it. Men in Scotland wear kilts to be men. If I saw a man in my neighborhood wearing a skirt, it would be pretty safe to say he wants to be treated like a girl. Thus the desire for a child (one too young to understand what I am talking about) to play with his mom's high heels doesn’t imply a same sex attraction.

What is the Homosexual Lifestyle?

Answering this question may cause contention. People are individuals making it inappropriate to put every homosexual in the same box. Just as individual heterosexuals are not guilty of every sin, neither is every homosexual guilty of every behavior that characterizes homosexuality. So, instead of accusing individual homosexuals, let's look at the worldview that embraces homosexuality.


There are those people who expect others to be tolerant of their lifestyle and yet have no tolerance for those who disagree with them. While I know many people who are supportive of homosexual marriages, I oppose them.  However, I do not wish evil upon these people, nor would I try to destroy their lives. In contrast, most of us are familiar with the weeks that led up to Brendan Eich's resignation from Mozilla Corp as the news and talk shows were obsessed with destroying him.

We must embrace homosexuality or be called homophobic (or much worse), yet the hypocrites can't stand to see any vestige of Christianity in public life. Get it out of our classrooms, city halls, courtrooms and the military. No cross or manger scene; no prayer, no saying "God bless you" and defiantly no Bible.

When I was typing the rough draft to this study using Microsoft Word, I could find no synonyms for gay or homosexual in its thesaurus. Is this because there are no synonyms for homosexual? Or, because the CEO at Microsoft fears he will get a retirement plan like Brendan Eich?


In recent years, the Roman Catholic Church has been plagued by scandals involving the sexual abuse of boys by priests. While the attacks have been directed against the church, it should be remembered that the predatory priests were homosexuals. Even so, the defenders of homosexuality have pushed homosexual leaders on the Boy Scouts of America. The media reminds us constantly of the destructive behavior of these homosexual priests. Why do they think homosexuals in the Boy Scouts will behave differently?

According to the Family Research Council, homosexuals comprise about 3% of the population, yet one third of sex crimes against children are against boys. It should go without saying that sex crimes against girls are just as evil. (Family Research Council, 2002)

The AIDS epidemic started in 1983. Since then, public schools, under the guise of preventing STDs have been obsessed pushing pro-homosexual sex education on younger and younger children. Now the homosexual lifestyle is pushed on children before puberty. These classes are not to teach the dangers of homosexuality; children are only allowed to hear the positive. In California's public schools, boys can use the girl's bathrooms. If these things are not predatory what is?

Luke 17:1-2 ~ Then [Jesus with a little child in his lap] said unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come! It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.

In 2013 the governor and legislator in California have passed legislation banning any therapy that might help children overcome homosexual tendencies. This in effect, keeps children locked into homosexuality. If this too is not predatory, what is? No doubt, these hypocrites call themselves prochoice. The apostle Paul uses strong words, yet the last sentence definitely applies to them.

Romans 1:28-32 ~ And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful. Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

The swelling ranks of the homosexuality community may be the result of sexual predators. The Family Research Council quotes from six studies showing the connection between becoming a homosexual and being molested as a child. I will quote two.

"Noted child sex abuse expert David Finkelhor found that "boys victimized by older men were over four times more likely to be currently engaged in homosexual activity than were non-victims. The finding applied to nearly half the boys who had had such an experience. . . . Further, the adolescents themselves often linked their homosexuality to their sexual victimization experiences." (Bill Watkins & Arnon Bentovim, 1992)

"A study of 279 homosexual/bisexual men with AIDS and control patients discussed in the Journal of the American Medical Association reported: "More than half of both case and control patients reported a sexual act with a male by age 16 years, approximately 20 percent by age 10 years." (Harry W. Haverkos, et al, July 28, 1989))

The website Heterosexuals Organized for a Moral Environment also gives a list of studies that show how many homosexuals were molested as children and how, as a result, they are confused about their sexual identities. This should not be entirely surprising; children of alcoholics, even though victims of their parents destructive lifestyle, are more likely to be alcoholics than children of those who abstain. The same is true for the children of those who smoke, are divorced, incarcerated or any other destructive lifestyle.

Views on Marriage

It is strange how the cultural engineers have been attacking heterosexual marriage since the 1960s. Today girls have can have babies out of wedlock, with no stigma attached. Yet for the homosexuals, marriage is a sacred institution. Why? They don't need marriage to live together; the Cultural Revolution has proved that. Yet, the news occasionally reports a story how a homosexual had to pay an inheritance tax because, without marriage, they didn't have rights of survivorship. Another example is that they feel a partner's employer should pay for both their medical expenses.

The real reason behind homosexual marriage is to push the acceptance of homosexuality on the rest of us. What children do in their bedrooms is their parent's business. What two grown men do in their bedrooms is their own business. Now, the homosexuals want me, as an employer, to pay for their lover's medical needs. Could you imagine their uproar if I expected them to pay taxes so we Christians can have better church buildings?

The reason God created marriage is to raise godly children. This is why our culture should discourage sex out of wedlock.

Malachi 2:14b-16 ~ The LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? [In Geneses God said the man and wife become one flesh.] Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Of course homosexual sex does not produce offspring so they would not marry to raise their own family. They (at least one of the partners) would have to adopt. The argument could be stated that in a free country if I have the right to adopt, the homosexual community should too. But why does a person adopt children? For their pleasure? Or for the children's best interests?

What is Homophobia?

The word homophobia comes from two Greek words; homoios meaning similar and phobia meaning fear. The Cultural definition of Homophobia is: "Irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals".

Jesus taught us not to fear men, homosexuals or otherwise, when he said,

Matthew 10:28 ~ And fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul: but rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.

As a Christian it is not the same sex attraction that I am afraid of, Jesus saves. What scares me is our culture ostracizing and our laws punishing those who will not embrace homosexuality. If I wanted to rent my house, I would be violating federal and state laws if I will not rent to a homosexual couple, even though it is against my religion. The inspiration for this study was Mozilla Corp's CEO, Brendan Eich, who had to resign because of a $1,000 personal donation he made six years earlier to support a California initiative that banned same-sex marriage.

Leviticus 18:22 ~ Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.

As a Christian I cannot embrace any lifestyle my God condemns, nor is it loving to affirm someone who is in a self-destructive lifestyle.


Once a person realizes that seeking pleasure doesn't find it. And he/she is willing to take responsibilities for the decisions they have made, that is, stop blaming others, they can come to repentance. Some will find immediate deliverance from the homosexual lifestyle. For some, it may take longer, yet Jesus can give you the victory and the joy that comes with it. Our webpage the Two Question Test shows what a person must do to be saved.

There are also other resources on the web.

1 Peter 5:6-9 ~ Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.


Homosexuals scream, "Get out of my bedroom". If it were just the bedroom, employers would not even know. They scream get out of my bedroom, but it is they who insist in bringing it into the public arena. They want me to disobey my God to affirm their lifestyle. They want me to pay their medical bills. They want to marry in my church. They want to indoctrinate my children.

And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye. - Matthew 7:3-5

I have two prayers for this study.

First, it will give a few answers to help Christians defend their faith. Second that some person trapped in the homosexual lifestyle will call on Jesus for a way to escape.

Written by Jeff Barnes.

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